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What is stopping you RIGHT NOW from moving forward on the tasks you need to do.  We can, at times, sit in indecision on what direction we should take.  We may question ourselves if it is even worth moving forward because we‘re feeling that we're in way over our head.

Often times we want a clear sign letting us know what we should do.  I refer to this as 'waiting for the Burning Bush'.  This references Moses on Mt. Sinai; when God spoke to Moses directly about EXACTLY what he should do and when.

But, let’s face it; we don’t get the burning bush in our living room advising us to take road A, or road B.  So what do we do?

The first thing to do is to recognize that you‘re sitting still in fear.  A key indicator is that you procrastinate with endless excuses about why you're ignoring making a decision, or taking an action.  My personal favorite is that 'I just don’t have enough time'; which is translation for 'I refuse to make this a priority'.

I am currently working on a project which takes me way outside of my comfort zone.  It is a project I am very enthusiastic about, but every now and then fear kicks in and causes me to avoid doing the things I need to do in order to move the project along.

There is a pattern in me that I have come to recognize.  I start feeling overwhelmed, then I start feeling that I don’t have what it takes to make it work, and then I move into total stagnation wondering if I should have even started in the first place.  I can move through the pattern over the course of a few days, or in a manner of minutes.

What I have begun to notice is that this rolls over into other areas of my life.  I stop taking care of myself.  For me this is most evident when my exercise routine suffers, and overeating kicks in.  And of course, a few extra pounds on the scale will only continue to feed into my funk and make me feel worse.

Here is a solution that I’d like to share with you.

Recognize what patterns you have when self-defeating behaviors start kicking in.  When you begin to see those patterns appearing in your life, start looking at those areas where you KNOW that you should be taking action; but you're not.  Those are the areas you need to focus most on in determining what is preventing you from moving forward.

For me with my project, I know it is my fear of failure.  Faith and Fear cannot co-exist.  I realized I was not having faith in my abilities or in God’s vision for me.  I knew I had to begin turning my fears over to God and just keep moving forward with the work I know I need to do.

I went out with a friend last night for dinner and shared my experience and fear.  It felt SO GOOD to verbalize my thoughts to someone about what I was feeling; and to hear them share similar experiences.  It also gave me the confidence that I needed to move forward.

Coming home after dinner, I logged on to Facebook.  I am a member of a private group where everyone is working on similar projects as me.  The first posting I saw was from someone who had been struggling with exactly the task I’d been ignoring for the past week.  They shared how they moved past it with determination and were celebrating having finally gotten through it.  There was a long list of comments that others were posting with congratulations.

While reading through them I was fully expecting to see a comment that read...Debbi – This is your burning bush...Move In to Action.  Signed, Your Loving God

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