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When I decided to write this blog about crying, I really didn’t know which category to place it in. Other? Menopause? Self improvement? This subject probably has a right place anywhere.
I cry. I cry when I am angry. I cry when I am sad. I cry when I am happy. I cry when I see someone else cry. I cry when I am afraid or anxious. It is as if the act of crying became an emotion in and of itself. How are you? I am crying, thanks, and yourself?
My husband has gotten used to it. This habit especially affects my 25 year old son. “Ma! get mad! Get pissed! Stop crying! You drive me crazy when you cry“!
As I was getting ready for bed last night, I was reflecting on the level of personal insanity which my family has endured in the last year. Health issues, financial crises, job losses, custody problems. Hmm, normally, just the thought of these things would make me cry.
Wait a cotton-pickin’ minute. I am not crying. In fact, I cannot remember the last time I did.
In retrospect, I have not cried for a good 4 months now. Hold the fort. I still have a pulse. I still have emotion. I still deeply care. What happened to me? To what do I owe to this wierd shift?
The only thing I can muster is that my meditations have been more spiritually intense. I have more clarity and focus. It is as if I have been able to compartmentalize my life “stuff” in little boxes where they rightfully belong.
I acknowledged the fact that most “emotions” are fear driven. When I perhaps thought I was angry about something, I realized I was fearful of the outcome, and not really angry at all. In my meditations, I stared hard at fear.
What is there to be fearful of? Here I sit. I am breathing in and out. There is no roof caving in on me at this moment. Ah Hah! Fear, then must be 2 things:
1: The recalling of past negative experiences, and
2: The projection of negativity on future experiences.
Right now there is nothing but the act of being.
Right now, I AM.
Right now, You Are.
Just the thought of this growth makes me want to cry.
I used to cry all the time when I was depressed. Maybe you were depressed and you aren’t anymore 
When I was pregnant I use to laugh all the time , it was really weird !!!
Leeann ahaha that is good stuff!
I hear ya catfan, and I considered the fact that I am not depressed. Yet it seems deeper than that, as if I still have the same issues going on, yet I deal with it differently because of new tools I found in my head :)
Thx Vikki with 2 K’s. I always appreciate your smiles!
Cheers, Ladies!
I remember a time when tears helped me through everything, now I resort to laughter and it feels a hell of a lot better..great blog!
i like this post!!!!!
i think crying comes in all categories and i have done my share of it in my 45 yrs....
but i figured out one thing!!!
WHEN I STOPPED CRYING AT A PERIOD IN MY LIFE, I DID NOT CARE ABOUT ANYTHING AT THAT TIME...
i think people go through different stages in their lives, and they also deal with things in a different manner, so as not to go totally insane,...
i was also told by a therapist years ago, that it its good to cry as long as you feel better afterward, but if you can not stop crying that is when you need help...
LJ
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Well, smile now! Because you wrote something great here, be proud! Nice work!
smoochie,
Mindy
You girls are the coolest, seriously. Just so easy “being” around here!
Us chicks, I tell ya..we wear our hearts on our sleeves..I think there is a bit of hell and alot of blessing in that!
Here’s to tears!
Cheers!
Yeah, I used to cry quite a bit too. But not anymore. I think it’s kind of like learning that you do love your life and that whatever happens is just “stuff“.....
Good blog!
I still cry alot, I’m a very emotional person, I cry when I see a sad commercial, now what does that say about me? EMO!
I am sure someday I will stop crying but for now I just cannot help myself. I am full of water works
I’m not saying I cry everyday, but tell me a sad story or see a sad movie or commercial and the tears start up.
Thanks ladies! Aren’t we something..us female types..wearing our hearts on our sleeves..and yes indeedy—as we evolve we pick and choose our battles and as you say Nancy, we acquire filters to weed out the unimportant things. Thank God for that..ahaaa!
Frannie I think that your tears are simply your emotion..you are sweet and tender and empathetic...that is a beautiful attribute. Yay for you.
And thanks to everyone who shared their feelings here.
I appreciate you all so much!
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