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It's funny, the things we say to ourselves over and over in our heads.  Most of us are guilty of being a bit unkind with our "internal dialogue."  We tend to ride ourselves relentlessly, instead of offering kind and supportive words.  You know what I mean, statements like, "How could you be so stupid?" or "You look ridiculous in that!" or "You are not good enough," are constantly running through our heads.  That is neither nice nor productive.

While we are busy knocking ourselves silly, we often forget the cold hard facts.  Any doctor or scientist will tell you, our minds are these amazing computers that direct our bodies, our selves.  Did you know that scientists believe the words we repeat to ourselves impact our neurotransmitters? Ut-oh.  What kind of information are we inputting?  When we are beating ourselves up, out of lack of self esteem or poor learning, or just plain habit, we are filling our computers with information.  Talk about a virus!  All those mean things we wouldn't say to even our biggest adversaries are taking up space in our beautiful and powerful minds.  Not good.  

Maybe its time we challenged ourselves to type in some different information.  Maybe its time we decided to re-write the programs we input day and night that tear us down, make us run slower and compromise our functioning.  

Think about it the next time you find yourself beating yourself up.  Visualize yourself typing the information you want to build up in that beautiful brain of yours.  Imagine you are stocking up on strong messages and statements that help de-clog your brain and pave the way for your mind to work with the strength and poise it was intended.

It might sound silly, but use your imagination to visualize what you are saying being typed.  It will make you more aware, more accountable and more able to switch your conversation with yourself to a more positive one.

Good luck and Happy New Year!

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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Feb 16, 2009
    • Thank you for this positive notes.  It is hard for me for give myself recognition.  The oriental cultural roots deep inside me.  I am creating a imaginary twin sister in me.  I give her compliments all the times and that helps a bit.

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      Maria Murphy wrote Feb 17, 2009
    • ChinaDoll

      This is a great idea. I encourage people to imagine they are sitting with a dear friend or a child.  Would we say the awful things we say to ourselves to our child or neice or dear friend?  Never.  Good luck with your twin and thanks for the kind words.


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