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How to Deal with Misery and Ignorance : written by Giselle Buonomo

“In the house of Ignorance there is no mirror in which to view your soul.” -Kahlil Gibran

I'm faced with a horrible dilemma in my life, once again, and uncertain on what to my first course of action was to look up the reason as to why some people are so bitter and in doing so, I came across the above quote.
As always, how profound and true a simple statement, such as this, is...when we are "blind to ourselves" or self-unaware, we are, not only, unable to see the ramifications of our words and actions, but we, also, do not realize WE are the ones "creating" the situations that surround us.
Individuals who choose to remain in misery and ignorance never really understand what it means to "step into another's shoes" because they are really so selfish and self-absorbed in their bitterness, shame and blame that they do not have any energy to step back and self-evaluate.
It really bothers me to my depths...I am, generally, an optimistic and free-spirited individual; however, I am only human, myself, and I am no stranger to the difficulties in dealing with negative, nasty and just plain lousy individuals...and yes, I believe it is best to keep away from these people and not get goaded into their disgusting ways...unfortunately; sometimes there really is no way to avoid these people or the abuse and burdens they place on others...and my confusion always comes down to wondering what I can do and what I should do and how to move forward when I've done all I really's a damn painful experience!!
In the end I know that my only answer is to keep doing what I always do and remain my true self and do my part to instill in others what I have become enlightened to so that they may become enlightened within themselves as well. I know I can't save the world but DAMN IT, it can be so frustrating to have to constantly "turn the other cheek" and "let go"...especially when the situation involves other people who are "getting the short end of the stick" and who deserve so much better and who may never even realize it because they've been "cut-down" and abused for so long!!  

If you read this and realize you have been a victim of other people’s misery and ignorance, in your own life... then, please, know that other's way of being is, absolutely, no reflection on you or who you are or how you should be!! You have a choice to always be and remain your true self no matter what any other human being has to say and the more you realize, understand and acknowledge your self-worth and inherent greatness, the more you realize that you are an asset to this world with just your being!
If you can relate to this because you have been up against the painful experience of being caught in the middle of another's harmful ways on others,in your own life...then, please, know that you must "keep pushin on" and continue to do the important job of self-checking so that you may always grow and develop from the "inside out" because this is where all truth resides and as the saying goes..."The truth shall set you free"!
If you happen to read this and somehow have a "personal awakening" to your own miserable ways and the impact and effects that it has had on can be the first step that you take to understand and implement self-forgiveness so that you may begin to create a better life, not only, for yourself, but for all those that are in your life and that you may come in contact with from here on out...
It's best to do a little something than to do nothing at this short article is my attempt, once again, to do a little something...and, believe me, this is, definitely, not the last you will hear from me!!

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      Msj wrote May 19, 2011
    • I enjoyed this!

      Also sometimes these “angry” people don’t realize it.  

      I know one.
      He saw someone (Joyce Meyer)speaking about this and doing a little improv using signs.

       Example: hanging a sign around her neck that said DO NOT DISTURB! and she was going on and on acting like an angry person, showing people how others view them
      and he was horrified. He said “OH. My. God. That is me.

      Every now and then I will say “HEY! take your sign off!” and we will chuckle.

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      Cathie Beck wrote May 20, 2011
    • I hear ya, Giselle.  

      My almost X just can’t understand why I won’t cooperate with him for the divorce he wants like it’s me that is the problem. I don’t bother telling him. It isn’t my job to help him grow a conscience for how he thinks of others and he’s not my job, period!  

      It was my job to raise my animals to be social and friendly. Not my job to be some one else’s conscience.  

      Thanks for the blog.  


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      Giselle13 wrote May 24, 2011
    • Thanks everyone for all your comments...I’m sorry it took so long to acknowledge you guys...if you can bear with me, ladies...I’m not an expert with the computer (yet :0)) so I’m learning as I go along.

      I, also, edited my blog a bit cuz I’m also not an expert writer so that, too, is a learn as you go process...

      however, with that being said...I am an expert at my passionate desire to grow from within and do what I can to help others do the same for themselves so it’s “lit a fire under my butt” to put myself out there and let my voice be heard!! :0)

      Thanks again and, as time goes on, I look forward to sharing and connecting with others on here!! :0)

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