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After all the dust had settled and we are able to

count our casualties, we begin to look over the  

losses from the other day.

When it was happening, it felt so great. We were

standing up for “us” and we told them .. we sure did.

Such are some  ramblings that could go on in the mind of

those who undertake a “word  

battle” with their “opponents” .

When in the heat of the moment, we take part in a shouting

match .. each person feels they are in the right.. words are

flung and feelings are hurt and in the end each one goes

their separate way..

Only after it has ended, the day after, do you begin to look

around at what happened and ask “why?” .    

Temptation is to put the blame on the other party.. after

all blaming “me” just wouldnt make sense..  That is usually

the first thought. Then, if you are a really sincere person

and really dig deep, you come to the truth of the situation:

The fuel that sparked the argument.

At first you are tempted to hide from this discovery.. after

all it points to you as being the instigator or cause or

the one who kept the ball going.  But, now that its

all over and

you survey everything: your words, their words, what  

happened..what is the atmsophere now.  

Perhaps it’s not all your fault ..but you ..yes you  .were

right there fueling the fury of insult and anger.. You  

put in your words and you continued the fight..  ..  

Would have been much better to walk away but all  

our friends were there.. ..

Its only the day after an argument happens that people

usually start to assess what the results are:

Question is .. the day after are we still blaming everyone

else or do we have the courage to ask “what was I doing

in this fight?” “Why did I have to put my two cents in?”

For me: I am constantly in the growing process..and find  

myself at battle with my pride that so often gets in the way

and shows itself when I feel wronged..  I constatly struggle

with knowing how, when and where to express my opinion.

It’s not easy to keep quiet when you have done nothing

wrong but in the end it is probably much better then  

picking up the pieces the day after.


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