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Trust is such a big element of any relationship and I am realizing just how much.  I have posted on this website in the past regarding some issue I have with my current partner. We have been dating for about 10 months now and when you look at this relationship from the outside, it is as good as it gets. He is affectionate, attentive, caring, generous and gentlemanly, there isn't much I want for yet there is this nagging underlying feeling I have.  In the beginning my trust in him was compromised, he lied to me about having his profile on a dating site, told me it was hidden but I knew otherwise. In fact, he still has a profile on a different not so well known dating site called "Adult Date Link" and has no idea I know about it. He is not often on it as I check periodically, but he has logged in a couple times in the last 10 months. You are not able to contact him, but he can contact others and there is his picture as big as life itself.  I just have no idea how to bring this up without looking like I am spying on him; I guess I simply don't trust him.  And, why on earth does he have this profile? I have noticed he tends to login into this site when he have serious discussions regarding issues in our relationship, like it is a security blanket for him should I leave.
In his past marriage of 28 years, he admitted he cheated on his now ex wife many times over the years. Not that this in anyway has anything to do with our relationship, but in my head the potential exists for him to become bored and stray again. He tells me his need for other women was strong in his 40's but does not have those feelings anymore and really I should take his word, it is just hard. We all know the saying... Past behavior is a good indication of future behavior.
So here I am, constantly wondering if he is being faithful and honest with me. When I don't hear from him one night or feel he is somewhat distant, I instantly think the worst. Perhaps I am being overly sensitive to this, but it is there regardless

Well ladies, there it is, any advice is most welcome.

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