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By Debra Betterly, PhD

Do you have a desire or a big "want" in your life that is taking a long time to manifest?  

If you are a student of the Law of Attraction, and you are keeping your vibrations up, staying in tune to your guidance, getting intuitive "hits" and watching as events are lining up, but are still asking "where is this big want that is still nowhere in sight?", then keep reading!

If it's not showing up in the time frame you consider to be reasonable, it usually means you've been more in the feeling place of not having it, and less in the feeling place of having it.

Here are some possible mistakes you could be making:
• You're trying too hard. (creating resistance)
• You've gotten really attached to the outcome.
• You've made the desire so big you don't believe it's possible.
• You're not paying attention to how you really feel.
• You are not trusting the Universe.
• You're still playing the victim game (blaming, complaining or justifying about why it isn't here yet)
• All of the above.

You know what? It's all ok. Give yourself a break. No one taught you how to be a deliberate creator growing up so it's going to be normal that you flounder a bit as you "play" with recognizing your resistance. There is no one or nothing to blame. You have just grown up being more accustomed to resistance, like most of society, than not and you often don't even notice it!

Can you just let it be ok that your big "want" hasn't shown up yet? You know that it will, but its fine that it hasn't...yet. The goal is to stop alternating between vibrating it and resisting it, to stop vacillating between belief and doubt. It's like you are trying to drive with the brake on and not getting anywhere!

So the question remains, how does one remain passionate about something that hasn't shown up yet? Here are some suggestions:
1. Check in with where your thoughts being directed to. Are you directing your energy to what you want or what you don't want? For example, you may want more than enough money to pay for all of your monthly expenses, but you are thinking (and vibrating) more about not wanting to come up short this month.
2. How often are you getting into the "feeling" place of having what you want? Keep yourself hyped up about it! Talk about it, write about it, sing about it, and visualize about it until you are feeling that certain "buzz" about it and do this every day! Here's a clue, sixteen seconds is all that it really takes so don't make this hard! Have fun and see how much longer than sixteen second you can extend that "buzz" (confident, happy, relaxed and excited about your want already being true) to!
3. Sit back and relax, the Universe will bring you your big want in the appropriate time for you to derive from it all that you desire. The Law of Attraction is never inconsistent-it works all the time, no matter what! Go from believing to the level of knowing it is on its way to you!
4. Now that you are relaxed and in that vibration of knowing it's already done-the Universe is on it, so let it go and go out and have some fun today! Be grateful, live it, and allow it and it will be in your life before you know it-providing you are keeping your focus off its absence!


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