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I am 44, I am a wife and mother to 5 children and 2 wonderful grandchildren. MY husband and i despite our best efforts lost our Home in short sale, had to move 110 miles from where home is, and I find myself struggling.  With who I am what I am and what do I want for my future.  I have had many Jobs, one being a daycare owner for 16 years, the last.....lets not go there, I hated it but it helped us move and turn on the electric!! I am currently unemployed and have been to agencies, as well as all those places you go online to find work..IE Career builder, Indeed, and so on.  In the last 30 days I have spent/wasted hours filling out New Member accounts, making up passwords which I wont remember. To find a “job” that I more than likely wont want to get up and go to.  I have been checking out, Beauty Schools..but Im not sure of all the money in school loans to pay back, My husband has a small boatload of debt from a Bachelors Degree, and I dont want to be paying back double for two educations.  This I accept is the next “chapter” in my life, I am just so unsure of what do to next, HELP!!!



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      Vikki Hall wrote Jul 12, 2011
    • Well first off you came to the right place! We are here to support you!!!

      I will return and comment again after I re read this!




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      Cathie Beck wrote Jul 12, 2011
    • Hi, Welcome to Fab 40 & Over.  

      Sounds like you need to take a deep breath and relax in your favorite way. I think my best when I relax from stress, myself. I’m waiting for a long drawn out divorce to end and then moving after it. I’ve never done “just about anything” for an income, but being a cashier at a 24 hour self serve gas station wasn’t the worse job I’ve ever had. ;oD  

      Think about your talents in things you enjoy doing. Maybe if gardening is your favorite of pass times, you can find a job at a nursery or a landscaping company. If you like to bake,
      look for a job at a mom & pop bakery. Reinvent yourself, now seems like a good time to do it and I wish you all the best.  

      Cathie




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      Mary Clark wrote Jul 12, 2011
    • heartCathie gave great advice!

      You can’t change the past.  All you can do is go forward! Make a plan..and stick with it and don’t sell yourself short.  Apply for the jobs that might not be exactly what you are wanting but it’s a job.  Sometimes I say I would love to work at Home Depot or Lowe’s in the garden department.  I would love tending to all those plants and flowers.  

      Do you like to bake?  Do like me and start making cupcakes...I’ve got people placing orders left and right.  I’ve never been a huge baker...so go figure.  That is how Paula Dean started off...cooking and baking in her home and her boys delivered.  Look at her now.  

      Avon....saw a woman on GMA once that had lost her job and had NO money coming in...and started selling AVON.  She is now their top seller..and this all happened in a short of amount of time.  

      Whatever you do...don’t get discouraged by “no’s” and “negativity“.  Stay focused...stay upbeat...and SMILE.  Believe me...it could all be much worse.  That is what I do....when I’m down and out.  

      When you‘re not job hunting..FIND something to do around your house that is productive.  Stay busy...help a new neighbor...volunteer somewhere...jobs can evolve from volunteerism.  Just tell yourself every morning...YOU CAN DO THIS...and you can!!

      I'm reading an excellent book by author Dave Ramsey...called The Total Money Makeover .  It's really a good book and I've had several people come to my desk who have taken his course and are debt free.  The plan works...but it takes commitment.  Excellent book that I think everyone should read!

      Best of luck to you..and just know we at FAB40 are here to support you!!




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      Mzd3 wrote Jul 12, 2011
    • Good advice ! I want to get that book MC, Ive heard great things about it!

      Guidinglite, we have something in common, Ive been providing chidcare for over 20 yrs now. (in my home) I hope something works out for you soon.




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      Marya1961 wrote Jul 12, 2011
    • Great advice from the ladies!  

      Volunteering is a wonderful way to get into something that you may really enjoy.  I have volunteered at various organizations, and it really gives you the opportunity to help and meet people that may open doors for you.

      I sympathize with you, but look to your strengths, you may be surprised at what you discover and really enjoy.

      Lots of good wishes to you!




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      Linda L wrote Jul 12, 2011
    • Good advice from our fab ladies! I agree that volunteering can lead to a paying job. Perhaps since you have child care experience, check your children’s school district for support staff substitute as well as permanent job openings. Now is a good time to apply before school starts in the fall. If I can do it, you can too!

      Good luck and please keep us posted. We‘re here for you.




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      Guidinglite wrote Jul 12, 2011
    • You Ladies have been nothing short of INCREDIBLE!!! Thank you so much for the ideas, and inspiration, I’m checking out some business opportunities online and haven’t given up on the Makeup thing.. I spent the first 44 years of my life giving and doing and being everything to everyone........I am not trying to be selfish, but the rest of my life I’d like to be a vivacious, capable and confident woman who stands out stands up and walks tall!




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      Prttymstng wrote Jul 12, 2011
    • Going back to school is a great idea. With your circumstances, I’m sure you would qualify for a Pell Grant for beauty school or for college.
      One of the license I have is as a beauty specialist, although I do not practice but I maintain my licensure. You should know that if you choose to go to beauty school, it will take up to 2 years after you graduate before you have a regular clientele. You’ll also be on your feet for hours at a time which can be physically challenging for some people.
      You mention in your post that you have had many jobs. Maybe now is the time for a career. Believe in yourself and that you have no place to go but up. You can do this.

      BTW - I lost my job when I was 47. I have been a dental hygienist 20+ years. I went back to school while I searched for work. It took me 2 1/2 years to find a position. While I was out of work, I got my license as a massage therapist. I also sold my house on a short sale and moved 142 miles away from home.




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      Vikki Hall wrote Jul 12, 2011
    • Welcome to you too Prttymstng! Great comment too!!!




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      Mary Clark wrote Jul 13, 2011
    • Welcome New Fabulous Gals....




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      Nancy Hirschman wrote Jul 14, 2011
    • You sound like a woman who desperately needs balance in her life. It is very important that you take care of yourself because you have a lot of people depending on you. Are you open to working from home?  There are so many opportunities to earn residual income with a home based business.  Every woman deserves to experience financial freedom so that she feels she has choices in her life. When a woman has choices she also know she has options & that will afford you to choose from a place of security rather than desperation.
      Nancy Hirschman
      714.318.9049




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      Mztracy wrote Jul 15, 2011
    • First off welcome!!

      The amazing ladies here have already given gr8 advice. Remember to breathe!  

      My step-mom has taught me to make lists of the most important things to the least and handle them in that order. Also, write down the sites and your un [user name] and pw [passwords], it really helps.  

      Keep us posted! estatic




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