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Hi Ladies,
I started skipping periods 3 years ago (maybe longer) first thinking it was stress and that I had lost too much weight but then the mood swings started and they made my PMS look like kittens playing! I seriously needed to be muzzled!!! Hot flashes, cold, hot-horrible, this has gone on now for years. I went for over a year without a period at all-nothing not even spotting then one day I got it...UGH...that was the only solice I had through the whole thing, thankfully I had stuff on hand! BUT I had (still) have times when I think I’m going absolutely crazy, things that I would normally had brushed off would just drive me insane, I would also LOVE to know when does this END!!!??? I know it’s probably different for everyone, I’m 48 yrs old and when this started I thought I was too young...boy age sneaks up on you fast and furious!
Has anyone else suffered through these same symptoms? At what age did they start? How do you deal with it? Does replacement hormones help (estrogen)?
Thanks for any advice!
Suzan (Oh...another symptom is I don’t sleep, hardly at all!)

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      Paris Mano wrote Feb 9, 2009
    • Just my personal opinion but I did not and would not take hormone replacement. My sister did for 5 years and has breast cancer. Another friend of mine took HRT and she has breast cancer. It is a personal choice but I would not do it. I was fortunate with my symptoms. Transitioned very easily. Try anything natural.




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      Suzan Dexter wrote Feb 9, 2009
    • Thanks, obviously I was leaning in that direction since I had decided not to take anything for several years already, but I guess it’s the depression and the irritation some days everything in my life just seems wrong and I know it’s just hormonal fluxuations but god how long does this last?! I had much the same syptoms before I’d start, horrible depression, almost suicidal and confussion until I figured out (in my younger years) all these emotions happened approx. 1-2 weeks before I’d start...bad PMS, so I’m not surprised really that it’s making me suffer on the way out! Just curious if anyone has tried antidepressants?? I really hate the thoughts of taking anything that makes me artificially happy but at this point aside from my dogs & being able to help other people with their dogs, nothing makes me happy. I hate the town I live in, have always hated it and really want to move to Florida where it’s warm, I’d even settle for an inbetween location but my husband has a well established veterinary practice and said he doesn’t want to have to go through taking the test to be board certified in another state-that just really makes me even more angry & resentful like I don’t have a say in the matter at all! That is NOT hormonally related, that’s stubborn guy related! Thanks for letting me vent!
      Suzan




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      Carine Nadel wrote Feb 9, 2009
    • I agree w/ parismom-a girlfriend took the hrt and had breast cancer as well.

      I stopped having periods about 2 years ago.  I still get hotflashes and night sweats.  it comes and goes.

      I am enjoying not having to worry about periods though!

      as for the sleep-there were times the insomnia was so bad I had no idea which side was up.




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      3sa wrote Feb 9, 2009
    • Not looking forward to the hotflashes and night sweats, but happy I had my uterus removed....no more periods.




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      Suzan Dexter wrote Feb 9, 2009
    • Thanks Carine for the insight, I really love this site!!!
      I had no idea that the insomnia was a part of it, thought it was stress related and I’ve always been a night owl but after going 5 days (and nights) without any sleep at all you do kind of feel like there’s no end in sight, it literally took me getting the flu (on Friday) to get me to sleep! It helps a lot knowing I’m not alone, I think to me that’s better than drugs. I’m sure the winter doesn’t help the depression, the weather has been in the negative double digits here (thus my wanting to move), I hate the cold and having Chronic Lymes it just plain hurts, I’m stuck in doors more months out of the year than I’m out because here there are really only 2 decent outside months!
      Thanks again!
      Suzan




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      Suzan Dexter wrote Feb 9, 2009
    • Oh lucky girl! I keep asking my husband to spay me worried he’s a doctor, just an animal doctor tongue out
      Thanks for commenting on my crazy!
      Suzan




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      Paris Mano wrote Feb 9, 2009
    • You really should not go that long without sleep. I am a good one to talk. I have a sleep problem myself but I work nights and days and my internal clock is a mess. You are not giving your body time to repair itself. This can also lead to heart problems. So try to take something to get some sleep every night. I did not want to take sleeping pills so my doctor said take Benadryl. It makes you sleepy. But you must give your body time to mend itself. The hot flashes and night sweats are just part of the transition. You might read up on natural things to take for them or go to a reputable health food store and talk with them. But the sleep could help a lot. I have to force myself to sleep even if it is just a couple of hours.




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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Feb 9, 2009
    • Bullymom: ha ha... asking your husband (who is a vet) to spray you.  That was funny.  What a great sense of humor.  My kind of gals.




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      Onevision wrote Feb 9, 2009
    • Ha....nope, not too young. I was 43 when the madness started. The mood swings have lessened a lot, I started on the Estring. I just don’t care much about anything any more, hmmm, well not like I used to. I would never forget friends birthdays and I got excited about holidays and such....know I’m just like I forget EVERYTHING and then I don’t care when I realize I forgot. It is so silly!!!




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      Feathermaye wrote Feb 9, 2009
    • I just went to my doctor today with complaints of mood swings, sleeplessness and such. It's mild for me, but I tend to be so high strung in the first place that my mild is a bit on the extreme side anyway, so any amping up of my moods can be unpleasant for my sweet husband! ohhhh

      I turn 39 this year (shhhh!) but I hit puberty at the age of 9, so I've been looking forward to dreading early menopause most of my life. My doctor said, though, that pretty much every woman, from the time of her 35th birthday, is perimenopausal.




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      Womensafety wrote Feb 10, 2009
    • My perimenopausal started about 35 night sweats. I am now 50 and just about done have not had a peirod in over a year. Ask your doctor I think you can buy a test at walmart to see where you are in menopausal. Their are no easy way just the thought of the end coming soon. Hang in their.
      Donna




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      Suzan Dexter wrote Feb 10, 2009
    • Thank you for your reply parismano! I know, I’ve gone 5 day stretches without sleep at all, well my brain will just kind of shut down after awhile and I literally be asleep standing up, people have said they saw me with my hands moving but like I was someplace else-asleep, sad I was still working in my little zombie states even! I guess technically it’s not so much that I can’t sleep I just can’t seem to get to bed! I really thought back when the kids lived at home and it was a 3 ring circus every day that this time in my life would be peaceful and easier...HA! Big surprise there...not so peaceful! After I was diagnosed with Chronic Lymes (prior having 8 surgeries on my hands that I probably didn’t need just misdiagnosed) left me out of the regular work force and home, I guess I brought that part on myself I could say it was peaceful for awhile then I couldn’t stand not working but never knew when the pain was going to hit, I rarely left the house because it was so bad so I decided to start my own businesses from home never thinking they would take off to the point that I can’t keep up-so that I guess was totally my fault! Again I have to rethink my life because you‘re absolutely right I can’t keep up this pace, definately not helping with my mental state!tongue out




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      Suzan Dexter wrote Feb 10, 2009
    • Thanks for the comment onevision! God I know I couldn’t live without post it notes!!! This is something no ones ever talked to me about before, so it’s so great to have a site like this this is just (I guess a few men sneak in, god knows why) but mostly just women here and it’s so nice to be able to talk to others that have gone through or are going through this same process! Wow...years huh?! Yey boy do we get all the fun! I figured after 3 years it should be done and over but some days I feel like a time bomb just waiting to go off and in this horrible cold weather were having in Maine I’m always HOT! Ugh! Just good to feel like I’m not alone! Thank you!




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      Suzan Dexter wrote Feb 10, 2009
    • Thanks feathermae! Sounds like you really started early but the more I hear (strange I’ve researched everything and anything to do with the dogs but not me??) but I think it’s better being able to hear from real women and how it’s effected everyone individually but mostly just the feeling that I’m not in this alone makes me feel better.




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      Suzan Dexter wrote Feb 10, 2009
    • Thanks womensafet! WOW that long huh??!! I thought I was weird this going on at least 3 years now! I’d like to say it makes me feel better but maybe if it ends at 50 for me too that would be good-just a year away! Something to look forward to the big 50 I guess worried

      THANK YOU ALL for your comments-you have all made me feel much better!!! I guess I just hang in there and try not to kill anyone ohhhh my dogs are such a great help (also one heck of a lot of work) but its worth it!!!




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      Cat Valentine wrote Mar 9, 2009
    • Hi gals!
      Ok, the hot flashes and insomnia and depression set in after my last period last March. My sister had given me the Suzanne Somers ‘Ageless’ book, and it was like it was written for me! I found a doctor in Orlando, Dr. Jennifer Landa, who is only working with bioidentical hormone replacement therapy. After taking the blood and saliva tests, found out that my estrogen and progesterone were both low. I am now on BHRT, you can have the creams or pills, and after two weeks, no more hot flashes, and I am sleeping almost thru the whole night. It’s been 3 months now, and now I will take another saliva test to see if I had the correct dosage prescribed. Ladies, this is all natural...not synthetic. Oprah had a show a month ago with Suzanne on it...please read this book or go to her website.
      Good luck!




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