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You often see older men with younger women.  What do you think about an older woman dating a younger man?  I’m talking at least 10 years younger!

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Age is only a number.  My ex was 15 years younger than me and our breakup had not a thing to do with age.  I date younger men only because it seems that men my age aren’t interested.  I don’t actively seek younger men, they seek me.  I’ve had men as young as 25 ask me out, but I think my limit is at least over 35.

My challenge is being called a “cougar“.  I am not a predator, nor am I out looking for sex!  Why is it that men can date younger women and no one calls them any derogatory names?


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      Jenni0811 wrote Feb 14, 2009
    • Either way....I personally think 10 years is the limit. Generational attitudes and frame of reference restrict the mental connection after that.   That’s just my opinion....




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      Almostfive0 wrote Feb 14, 2009
    • LOL! Go on Dr. Jenni!  I agree with you both. It depends on the maturity level of the two involved.




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      Owlmaria wrote Feb 14, 2009
    • Does 7 years count? I’m 7 years older than my husband! And the funny thing is that he is 10 years younger than my ex, who left me for a younger woman- he’s on wife # 5 now!!
      I think it is KARMA!!!!!!!!!




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      Rystmom wrote Feb 14, 2009
    • I used to see couples with extreme age differences and wonder what they getting out of the relationship.
      But my 26 year old son has been with the same women for 5 years. She is 44 years old. At first it was very hard for me to except. Than I saw her with him when he had surgery. She started to work her way into my heart.
      My son has always been more mature than his friends. We always used to say he was born old. His girlfriend had a very bad relationship with the father of her child. He ended up in prison for what he put her and her daughter through. I think she allowed my son in. They started as friends.
      Over the past five years I have seen their love for each other blossom.
      Though she wasn’t my choice, I choose now to love her.
      I always wanted my boys to be loved wholeheartedly, and to be treated like kings. I also wanted them to treat their girlfriend/wives like they were queens. In this relationship that is how it is.




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      Owlmaria wrote Feb 14, 2009
    • Sounds a lot like my situation. My husband’s family was shocked when we first started to date. Now they are the best mother & father a woman could ask for.
      My ex’s mother was from Hell!




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      Rystmom wrote Feb 14, 2009
    • Plus I recieved a granddaughter out of the deal.  She is older and I didn’t have to do diapers!!!!




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      Linni wrote Feb 15, 2009
    • i too agree!
      as long as they maturity level is there, and he can take responsibility, why not? :)

      rystmom, that is cool! i am glad your son has someone to love him, and take care of him..




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      Tuliplady wrote Feb 15, 2009
    • I replied to this post three times yesterday before I realized we had a problem here.......so here goes again. LOL

      I dated a man 20 years my senior.  He has sons my age. The age difference didn’t bother me in the least.  Now, if I were single again, I wouldn’t have any problem dating a man 10-15 years younger than me.  I’m not sure if I’d settle down with a guy that young, but date, absolutely!




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      Anonymous wrote Feb 17, 2009
    • Age is only 2 numbers it truly doesnt matter, your heart doesnt know numbers.  I have found men my age mid 40’s are much more immature then ones I have met in their late 20s! 40 somethings need to prove they still have it going on so they reach out for a younger woman not for intelligence just to have something young on their arm.  Where as a younger man has no baggage, he is very secure within himself and appreciates a women that isnt jealous, whiney, possessive which they find those traits in 20 something women.




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      Vrgrant wrote Feb 17, 2009
    • I also think that maturity is more important than age. I have dated younger men before and have always found them (the ones I dated) to be secure in themselves.  I’ve also dated guys in their 40’s and 50’s that had some serious issues.

      My sons who are 23, 22, 21 and 21 (twins) told me that they have no problem with me dating anyone younger as long as the person is not in their 20’s.  I can date anyone over 29 years old!




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      Jgirl1331 wrote Feb 25, 2009
    • Age is only a number.  My ex was 15 years younger than me and our breakup had not a thing to do with age.  I date younger men only because it seems that men my age aren’t interested.  I don’t actively seek younger men, they seek me.  I’ve had men as young as 25 ask me out, but I think my limit is at least over 35.

      My challenge is being called a “cougar“.  I am not a predator, nor am I out looking for sex!  Why is it that men can date younger women and no one calls them any derogatory names?




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      Vrgrant wrote Feb 25, 2009
    • You‘re so right jgirl331.  There’s nothing wrong with dating younger.  Like you, I don’t seek younger it just seems that they are more interested than older men.  Age 30 is my limit.




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      VICKY CORYEA wrote Mar 15, 2009
    • I have been seeing a younger guy thats 12 years younger and we have the best time together!  there is never a time when conversation doesnt flow easily and he is fun and caring, and well the sex is     w       o       w!! He actually keeps me very young spirited.  We are really fwb. I love him forever and have never known a relationship like this. So I say, forget age as a deciding factor.............look at how you relate to eachother.




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      Mz. Queen wrote Mar 15, 2009
    • 10 years in age difference works for me, in either situation.




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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote Mar 15, 2009
    • My hubby is older than me by 11 years, and no one says boo. But I bet if it were reversed there would be people calling me a cougar. That is such a rude term. I have a problem with a big age difference in either sex if the goal is $$. If two people love each other strictly for each other, who's to judge?




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      Doreen XoXo wrote Mar 15, 2009
    • I think it works!!  No problem for me.  Cougar I tell ya!!  LOLOL




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      Jenz ~ wrote Mar 15, 2009
    • Who cares? Look at Demi & Ashton! lol
      Age- a number. (Unless one is making decisions like that at say, age 18 & 19, you know?)




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      Leadinladytracy wrote Mar 15, 2009
    • Doreen I agree and admit that I have cougar tendencies.  

      If I had to do it all over again, I would definitely give a younger man a chance. I would keep my opinions open thats for sure.




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      Jgirl1331 wrote Mar 15, 2009
    • Strangely enough, I find that younger men don’t play the stupid games that men over 40 play.  I don’t know why, you would think it was the opposite, but I’ve found men in my age group play games and are very afraid of any commitment, wanting to keep their options open.




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      Marie Hempsey wrote Mar 15, 2009
    • Cougar tendencies...lol. I guess I could see that!




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      Fraz764 wrote Mar 15, 2009
    • This is sooo funny to me cause this 25 year young, fine , young, built , young man at work has what I call a crush on me, but he says it is not a crush, that he wants to get to know me better!

      Ok that is one year older than my oldest daughter and 20 years younger than me!




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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote Mar 15, 2009
    • Fraz, go on with your bad self!estatic




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      Marie Hempsey wrote Mar 15, 2009
    • Uhhh Fraz...go for it!




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      Fraz764 wrote Mar 15, 2009
    • I wouldn’t know what to do with a 25 year old boy!! But did I mention how good he looks!! I have to force myself not to smile when I see himestatic




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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote Mar 15, 2009
    • Fraz, I just got Rufus’ “Tell Me Something Good” stuck in my head. Play that and let the rest happen!!




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      Fraz764 wrote Mar 15, 2009
    • LOL @Cindylouestatic




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      Mz. Queen wrote Mar 15, 2009
    • Fraz you don’t have to know what to do with him, you just have to do it with himestaticestaticestaticestaticestatic
      And then whatever................




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      Vrgrant wrote Mar 15, 2009
    • Fraz764,

      Go for it, girl!

      WORK IT!




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      Fraz764 wrote Mar 15, 2009
    • Irishree, Cindylou, 47 and Vgrant!, the temptation is there, but 20 years age difference, I should be trying to hook him up with my daughter!

      And besides, can’t I go to prison for that? LOLestatic




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      Anonymous wrote Mar 15, 2009
    • ASHTON KUTCHER
      DEMI MOORE

      Their marriage has lasted longer then several people I know that are the same age!  Mariah Carey married a man 12 years her Jr and that woman can have ANYONE she wants so there must be something to it!!




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      Jgirl1331 wrote Mar 15, 2009
    • I have a 25 year old after me too Fraz and I can’t decide what to do about it!  I sure know what to do with him, but...LOL..I guess I am better off, I don’t have a daughter...




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      Fraz764 wrote Mar 15, 2009
    • I told her (daughter) about him a couple of weeks ago, she told me to go for it alsoestatic




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      Mz. Queen wrote Mar 15, 2009
    • Naw girl, you can’t go to jail. He’s a grown AZZ man.




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      Tuliplady wrote Mar 15, 2009
    • Fraz, you can’t pass something that fine along to your daughter!  Go for it.




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      Anonymous wrote Mar 15, 2009
    • What does a younger woman have to offer a man anyways?? We have the wisdom, experience, worldliness and been there done that so we know how to...do it better- LOL




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      Doreen XoXo wrote Mar 15, 2009
    • I say go for it!!!  Yahoo!!!!!!!!
      xoxo




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      Fraz764 wrote Mar 15, 2009
    • estatic Doreen, I knew your answer already!! My girlestatic




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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote Mar 15, 2009
    • Go to jail? only if you‘re doing it right!!!estaticestaticestatic




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      Jgirl1331 wrote Mar 15, 2009
    • LOL..GO FOR IT!




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      Vrgrant wrote Mar 15, 2009
    • Fraz—“Tap that ass, girl!




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      VICKY CORYEA wrote Mar 16, 2009
    • ok............the verdict is in!!  life is too short to be THINKIN about this!!!   you must partake of the goodies and report back to the sister ship!!!   asap




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      Terri Quinn wrote Jun 5, 2009
    • I see nothing wrong with it.My grandma was 20 year’s older than my grandpa. They were inseparable sweethearts to their last day’s.

      SOME younger men are often more mature than older men.
      Age is only a number.




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      Butterfly13 wrote Jun 5, 2009
    • Age means nothing its the “baggage” you are willing to put up with.   I have no children-no ex-husband to deal with. Personally lets say a 40somthing year old man-with a few little kids-arguing about alimony/child support and who gets the kids this weekend would not fit my lifestyle so I prefer a man without the baggage. I dont like the word cougar-Im not seeking out a younger man to prey on him- I have more in common with someone that have my same interests - so it he was born 10 years after me who cares.... You have heard after a certain age a man tries to relive his childhood so he may even be more immature then a 20 something year old financial advisor that has the smarts/monitary resources and class to treat you right because of his background.




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      Frannie1964 wrote Jun 5, 2009
    • I say..go for It!

      I also agree with Jenni, I like how you put It happy




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