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Q: Would you consider an online affair that did not involve face to face contact, an act of emotional infidelity?

Info: I have read a lot of articles about men spending time flirting with women they met online and ultimately it ends up leading to a physical affair that destroys their marriage/relationship.

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Every affair is emotional cheating. Online or in person.

VERY uncool if you‘re not single. If you are single, knock yourself out!


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      Vikki Hall wrote Apr 8, 2009
    • IMHO that once the woman’s mind is in engaged in the act then the affair is in progress.




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      Jenni0811 wrote Apr 8, 2009
    • My BF lives 1,000 miles away, so we text and “sext” all the time. Even though we are not in frequent physical contact..the texting is Very Real and I do not consider us any “less involved” than a couple who are in physical contact on a more frequent basis.  

      So, YES....online contact or texting of a sexual/emotional nature does an affair make.




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      Saylor101 wrote Apr 8, 2009
    • my vote is yes - affairs of the mind and heart can be as dangerous as physical ones....




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      Mztracy wrote Apr 8, 2009
    • YUP!!




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      Jenz ~ wrote Apr 8, 2009
    • Every affair is emotional cheating. Online or in person.

      VERY uncool if you‘re not single. If you are single, knock yourself out!




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      Jenni0811 wrote Apr 8, 2009
    • BTW....I’m sure most know, but not to confuse anyone...we are BF/GF in a relationship....not an affair!! tongue out




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      3sa wrote Apr 8, 2009
    • Yes and it’s worst than a physical affair in my opinion.  An emotional affair means his time and heart are involved.  Chatting all hours of the day and night, sending pictures back and forth, you tend to grow faster in online relationships because all you do is talk, if that person was local they would just be meeting for sex most likely without time to talk and get to know each other....IT SUCKS..




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      Jenz ~ wrote Apr 8, 2009
    • that happened to me. It DID suck. That’s putting it very mildly. Some people are just gross.




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      Lightninbug65 wrote Apr 8, 2009
    • Yes!  Once you engage your mind and heart... face to face or not... it’s cheating.




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      Angelcart wrote Apr 8, 2009
    • Absolutely yes.  The company I work for is small so people tend to know other’s business pretty quick.  We had 2 guy’s here who were spending a lot of time on-line with other women.  One was married - his wife kicked him out.  The other might as well been married, they lived together 15 years - he got caught up in that as well.




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      Mztracy wrote Apr 8, 2009
    • and sadly in this type of ‘affair’ the women’s heart is in it, and many times the man has a few going on at once and has no heart. Or even visa versa. Happened to a friend. frown




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      UK Girl wrote Apr 8, 2009
    • People are a lot more brave and open when hidden behind a screen or phone so they tend to push further and open up quickly - I think it’s just like a physical relationship - if your doing behind your partners back and think it’s ok then you suck




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      Jenz ~ wrote Apr 8, 2009
    • Regardless, if one is not single, there’s no justifying it. No excuse, no any of it. Been there, seen it. BLAH!
      Uncool unless you‘re single.
      To accept it or let the partner get away with it is demeaning.
      Ugh- I’m not a huge fan of this topic. I’m outta here girls!




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      Ravensong wrote Apr 8, 2009
    • Thank you all for your input.  I was kind of hoping that I was not alone in thinking that it is just wrong no matter if there is physical touching or not. Emotions are very strong things.  I found this site and think that it will be beneficial to me if I post my story.  I started my blog today and just getting out some of the stuff in print has been very invigorating.  Walk A Mile In My Shoes  


      Ravensong, Your links have been removed, please consider upgrading to premium membership.




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      Dalemarie wrote Apr 10, 2009
    • NO ... not if you are married!




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      Beemeh Moore wrote Apr 13, 2009
    • I had an online affair four years ago and emotionally involved. It was weird cuz I did not expect it to happen to me but it did.  It almost ruined my marriage and believe me it still bothered me why it happened to me...why I had fallen to someone I did not even know and did not even see in person.  Emotionally involvement is very powerful....my husband rescued me from that...even though he does not trust me anymore, he still took me back...but I am still lost..even now!




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      Smiley1962 wrote Apr 15, 2009
    • If you are married absolutely.




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      Fraz764 wrote Apr 15, 2009
    • YEP!




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      Mira66 wrote Apr 18, 2009
    • It happened to me, and now we are getting divorced. He said she was his best friend, after one year of talking, imagine that! While our relationship was 19 years and all the crap I put up with him, thinking it will get better...lol  Needless to say it didn’t last for them.

      When the heart is involved, and it’s intimate conversation and you‘re married, it’s cheating regardless if there is sex involved!

      3sa: I completely agree with you because if it was locally, sex would have been ivolved. And yes, it does suck!




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      Anne E wrote Apr 29, 2009
    • An on-line affair is still an affair,  So sorry it happened to you Mira 68.




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      Peanutty1165 wrote May 3, 2009
    • happened to me just last year...he met her on another site and they eventually met in person.While i was working to support the family we have,and carpooling with his sister to save gas, he was using our car to go see her...I took our son and left on new yrs eve..but came back after 10 days when he ended it with her. Swore i would never let another man cheat on me but i love him and our family...things are better now, better than they have been in three years




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      Bookdoc wrote Apr 21, 2010
    • YES! Emotional affairs are just as deadly as face to face affairs.  

      If someone is doing something they cannot share with their partner than they are doing something wrong and they know they are doing something wrong that’s why they don’t share it.  

      Anything that takes intimate time (and conversations, pics etc. with others on line is intimate!)away from being with your partner is cheating!

      Peace estatic




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      Lazylola wrote Apr 21, 2010
    • yes




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      Mztracy wrote Apr 21, 2010
    • YES YES YES!!




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      Marya1961 wrote Apr 22, 2010
    • Absolutely!!..and not only online, but texting is also very dangerous..which makes me wonder why so many men, women, teens are into this sex texting now..hmmmm..guess you won’t get an STD that way, that is some crazy stuff!heartbreak




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