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I THINK I WANT OUT...
NOT FOR SOMEONE ELES BUT FOR MYSELF. HOW DO I TELL HIM?

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      Jenz ~ wrote Apr 13, 2009
    • I concur.

      Be true to yourself.




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      UK Girl wrote Apr 14, 2009
    • Be honest honey - you would want the same if you were in his shoes - is it something in particular or have you just fallen out of love and want to move on .......

      Be true to yourself and him honey




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      Bluerose wrote Apr 14, 2009
    • Very carefully.  And make sure you‘re leaving for the right reasons & be positive that it’s what you really want.  You‘re about to open up a bee’s nest of hurt feelings and who knows what else.  Make sure that in the end it’s all worth it.  There is no easy way to tell someone you‘re leaving them.  Good luck & be good to yourself.




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      Smiley1962 wrote Apr 14, 2009
    • I agree with jenz be true to yourself.  You have to be happy!




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      Termite wrote Apr 14, 2009
    • Stay true to your heart ladies. You only have one life to live, make it yours! happy




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      Anonymous wrote Apr 14, 2009
    • frankie5, I can relate.  But my own thoughts are rather cautious.  Could it be that “the old flame” may be appealing because the rigors of day-to-day stress are not part of the picture.....at least not yet?  Once reality sets in, would the same issues / struggles / complaints exist in the relationship with the old flame as it is in the current relationship?  I’m not judging, just interested in your thoughts as I try to reconcile my own.




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      Polly W wrote Apr 14, 2009
    • First, you really must be absolutely sure, as sometimes we only  “think” we want something, and when it all turns out it isn’t really what we wanted to begin with. Proceed with caution.
      Maybe you don’t want out, maybe you want something more out of him.




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      Beemeh Moore wrote Apr 14, 2009
    • if you are not happy where you are right now, consider thinking when and how do u want to be happy....we can’t change others, we can only change ourselves!




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      Rebecca Deos wrote Apr 14, 2009
    • Here’s my humble opinion:

       All relationships go through different phases. We all go through the same thing, but unfortunately we don’t talk about it. We tell people getting married, “Marriage is tough and alot of work“, pat them on the back, and let them walk blindly into predictable circumstances.

       My questions would be; is this a normal phase of a long term relationship? Is there anything worth salvaging? Would couunseling help figure out what got you to this point to at least insure you dont end up in the same place in a new relationship?




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      Ravensong wrote Apr 15, 2009
    • Definately do in your heart what you know is right.  I stayed married for 13 years with the thought that it would be better for the kids.  My marriage was over after the first year though and all I have to show for it are two fantastic kids that had to see just how miserable a couple can really be.




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      Tammyjoa wrote Apr 19, 2009
    • we have been married for 10 years next month  together for 15he  has 3 kids that were very yough when we got together. they have always lived with us not there mother. i love my hubby buts its the kids who are ruining me.. after all these years they start to think it ok to trat me how ever they want.  i threw his oldest out 21. about a month ago and i one way feel very guilty bout it. see we also have my brothers babies who are 6,8,9, and have had them for 2 years this time... we have had them 5 times since the 6 year old was born.. i think my point would be he acts like all is ok about me throwing hisdaugther out when i know its not.. he makes harsh comments like .. “i wont be happy till all his kids are gone”  his kids are 21, 19,17.. how long m i to put up with the disrespect? the down right crulty to me and the neices? i hope i made some sence of what it going on..




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      Tina Norton wrote May 22, 2009
    • To me, it would seem that after 15 years, your husband’s kids are treating you as they would treat you even if you were their mother.  The teen years are VERY tough, and you’ve got another dose of it coming when your brother’s kids reach that age if you still have them.  If you and your husband are both happy in this marriage, despite the kids, then maybe some counseling would be worth a try.  Just my opinion.




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