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More about the Tiger Woods issue, in a way:  

Hugh Hefner has made a comment that he thinks the whole idea of monogamy is just a wish  No big surprise from him. He says it’s normal for a young, healthy man.....

What if it were a woman?  Society has always been more forgiving toward men and, like Hef, some men think being faithful just isn’t going to happen.  

Is it worse for a women to cheat?  I mean, when it comes right down to it - do we expect better behaviour from women?  

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      Mztracy wrote Dec 5, 2009
    • Well coming from Hugh, DUH! lol tongue out




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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Dec 5, 2009
    • I don’t think it applies to all men. I know without a doubt that my husband would never cheat. As a young man when he was married to his first wife, he had plenty of opportunity and even some women who approached him. He is faithful - that I’m certain. I also know my dad was always faithful to my mom. Hugh Hefner doesn’t live in the real world.




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      Encee wrote Dec 5, 2009
    • That’s for sure.  Hefner is sort of la-la land about the way he lives.




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      Frannie1964 wrote Dec 5, 2009
    • Sooooooo!!!  when Hugh Hefner was saying all this, did he have all his playboy bunnie girfriends around him? Yeah, try stepping out the door Into reality Hugh. Just sayin!




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      Mztracy wrote Dec 5, 2009
    • rofl Frannie!! Soooo true!!




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      Daphne wrote Dec 5, 2009
    • I have a slightly different view of Hugh Heffner.  He has always been honest about his dating preferences and anyone who stepped into his world, knew it.  Barbi Benton wouldn’t tolerate the lack of monogamy so she split...good for her.  It wasn’t working for her so she should have left.  

      A relationship isn’t limited by the boundries set by others.  It is important that everyone get what they need from a relationship and what one couple may need isn’t necessarily what another couple might need or want.  If Hugh Heffner likes having several pretty young things around him and there are pretty young things who want to be with Hef, everybody wins.  I do have to say that the idea that he’s still legally married doesn’t bode well but again...his “wife” is getting what she needs from Hugh, as well.  She lives right next door in a cushy home, and all her needs and the needs of their children are met.  Cynthia stated that “Hugh Heffner doesn’t live in the real world“...to that i say, Hugh Heffner can afford to live in his own world!  LOL

      The double-standard is evident.  For some reason, men who cheat are more forgivable than women who cheat.  Society holds women to a higher moral standard probably because of our traditional role as nurturer.  We’ve all made a snide remark about a man’s inability to deal with emotional stuff.  They want to find a solution and move on...they do NOT want to talk about it.  Women will roll around in it for awhile and feel better for doing it!  A man would rather walk hot coals and kneel on broken glass than have a deep, meaningful, emotionally wrought conversation.

      Maybe men are more forgivable because it is the women who forgive them...the women who can take an emotional  look at the situation and come to a place where she can live with it.  

      Just my two cents...are you still glad you asked?  LOL




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      Bobbi Bacha wrote Dec 5, 2009
    • First of all if Hugh Hefner didnt have money, not one young bunny would be throwing herself at him at all.  The only person that would have stayed and loved him Rich or Poor had he been faithful was perhaps Barbie, who really seemed to love him and wanted fidelity.  BArbie also found the mansion and added class to his act.  Even today she is more natural and more beautiful than any of his young bunnies, she was a true natural.

      Secondly, Tiger made a mistake as many men and women do in a marriage.  But I have to say... we dont own our mates like cars or houses and marriage is not ownership papers.  Violence should never be an option and Tiger is in his marriage electively and so is his wife.  If she is violent.. perhaps.. there could be a reason he strayed and violence is a terrible thing for children to grow up witnessing.  He needs to decide if he wants to recommit to his wife or move on.  I hate to see children in the mix but I think children just want happy parents !




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      Encee wrote Dec 6, 2009
    • Daphne, yes, Hefner is an honest man, but you  know I  think women who get involved with him can still get hurt because it’s in our nature or something to think we have the magic to make changes.  But, it’s a really good point that he is up front about it and the woman does know where she stands.  

      And you bet, greeneyelady, if Hef didn’t have a pot to put a flower in he’d be hoping to chase some skirts at the old folks home!

      I think everyone is posting great answers.




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      Mary Clark wrote Dec 6, 2009
    • Coming from a Christian point of view....affairs are wrong....period!  Being married to one woman...and sleeping with another is absolutely wrong...there is no justification for it. Or vice versa.  It applies to both sexes.
      Now....can people be forgiven....absolutely and we should forgive them...doesn’t mean we forget and it doesn’t mean there are not consequences to those choices.  But forgiveness doesn’t give you the green light to continuously do it over and over again.  

      As far as Elin and the golf club...well...until you are in those shoes...none of us knows what we would truly do.  I THINK I know what I would do but that doesn’t mean that is what will happen.  

      I’m so sick of hearing this past week from different people and posts that “men have affairs all the time“.  Oh..so that makes it okay?  He screwed up (no pun intended) and now...they have work to do to repair the damage IF they both want to repair it.  We don’t know what happens behind close doors...we don’t know how Elin really is but is that really any of our business?  If he were an elected official...I would say they have more to answer for...but Tiger Woods is not.  Is he a role model to millions of kids? Yes and that is what bothers me the most.  

      My wish is that they will be able to repair the damage and the less that is said or reported about what they are doing the better it will be for them.  Just the fact of being who they are is already against them.  They do need to handle as much as they can as privately as they can.  And that in itself...is going to be challenge.

      And to answer the question....I do believe the acceptance is different between men and women.




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