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When you get married have your kids don’t you think this is going to be a forever togetherness with your husband, then it end up bad, and HOW?
I don’t know how to answer the How part. I only knew no one entered a marriage ever thought of divorce down the road. We all want to marry for life. Somehow, situation changed, people changed, we changed, or whatever reason or no reason, we just did not make it.
I had two marriages and both ended up a divorce. There is no guarantee in life but will I do that again, yes, you bet with the right person I think (again, at that moment).
For me, it was having expectations of what marriage was, being a partnership and being married to someone who wouldn’t get a job or do a fair share of the work. I wound up feeling burned and used. I can’t imagine getting married again though I do get lonely sometimes.
I was married for 30 years........until illness turned him into someone I did not know any more..........but I certainly thought it would be forever......
That’s what we‘re taught to believe, but that happily ever after stuff is definitely for the fairy tales. I read something that said most marriages where the husbands are the happiest wind up in divorce. Which makes that old saying “if Mama ain’t happy, nobody’s happy” pretty much on point. In some relationships the kids are the blessings, and in some instances they‘re the curses that send the entire relationship like a sled on an ice hill.
I guess ladies we all at one point think that we all would have a long lasting marriages, but who are we kidding, its just an handful that works, men are just men they cant keep a commitment too long, but to the ones that do good for them they need a pat on the shoulder.....sometimes some women also is the cause of marriages to break up, but i would say most times men are at fault.....
Don’t forget about they‘re fragile little ego’s that they have. I think that’s what lead us into a divorce I was getting more attention for what I was doing to his house’s than he was.
If there is any ladies that haven’t gotten married or ladies that still want to get married don’t upset the apple cart in doing something better than he could because that would turn him in to a tale spin. And if he’s a lazy son of a b*#tch, run don’t walk because he will expect you to do everything and then get pissed that you did it.
I sincerely have never meet a man who could stand up to me, and I’m not tooting my own horn I’m just being honest. I’m not one to baby a man, that what mother’s are for and by the time they get married they should be able to stand on there own two feet. Physically and emotional and if there not don’t marry him.
I agree i dont think anyone truly gets married and dont expect to spend your life with that person. But i know with my first, i was 17, and i had a dream in my head, not reality.
And honestly, We dont talk, he seems to hate me, but i know we both played our part. And I would have like it to end more friendly. We had three children together, and now we have three grandchildren. But i am very able to look back and say we had our time. and I entered into my marrage now with the idea that it was a work in progress, Its a partnership.
I thought it would be forever....through the good times and the bad (alcoholism and abuse)but like mentioned above I think that was more like a dream and not reality...I finally got fed up with it and left...the best thing I ever did.
I too thought that when I got married the first time that it would be forever and we did have a good times and bad and in that marriage we had to beautiful boys but after all the mental and physical abuse I couldn’t take it anymore and I wasn’t going to let my oldest continue to see and hear all the ugliness around him.. So after 4 yrs I left even though it was hard I had to do what was best for my boys luckily I had my family and friends to help me & support me and my boys..
I left my EX in 1991 and in 1996 I met my hubby and he’s so great, wonderful and love us and yes we do have our ups and downs (who doesn’t) we talk and work at our marriage, something my EX didn’t NOT want to do.. Me and my hubby will celebrate our 14th anniversary this coming October and we‘re even talking legally getting married next yr.. YAY!!
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Good going Marie! 