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How would you address someone that had told numerous people that they don’t like you, but are still nice to your face.

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      Debpeters wrote Aug 27, 2010
    • This person was someone I once considered a friend, and even though they have told others that they do not like me, I continued to help them out during difficult times. Loaned money, bought food, etc, I did this because I did not think they would say these bad things about me. Now it has become very clear they have been saying bad things (I have overheard conversations and seen some online stuff via a friend). Would you confront them with the information or just wash your hands?




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      Kyah wrote Aug 27, 2010
    • Did this person pay you the money owed? Kick the person to the curb, you can do without a two-faced user.




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      Kandykahne 5 wrote Aug 27, 2010
    • I would confront them on it. Depending on what they said and how they said it would determine if I even wanted to bother with them anymore.happy




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      Vikki Hall wrote Aug 27, 2010
    • I probably would say something to them along the lines of “oh well since you really don’t like me then I guess it won’t bother you if I delete you from my address book” and wash your hands of them!




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      Denise Richardson wrote Aug 27, 2010
    • I know that words can be a hurtful thing, but why go there? Why stoop to her level? The best defense in handling her and this so called friendship is for you to be the bigger person count your loses and move on without a word to her, you owe her NOTHING!!! she has opened this door of deceit so I’d walk right through it; trust me she will know why you have kicked her to the curb without you going off on her or saying one word to her and she will disappear just like the dust in the wind. She knows what she has done and said about you and to whom she has said it to, so move on my friend, Been there, and done that!




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      Rose Nino wrote Aug 27, 2010
    • I would kill her with kindess no matter what. When someone does something to me that is hurtful and the only thing I can think of is telling them off, I simply ask myself, what would Jesus do? Then let her wallow in her shame. I really do come out feeling much better about the person that I am and strive to be everyday. And I pray that they too will one day be.  

      Hugz heartheart




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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Aug 27, 2010
    • I would confront her directly but in a kind and non threatening way. I’d tell her I’m confused by the mixed reviews of our friendship with her being nice to me but then talking about me to others. I’d give her the opportunity to explain and put some closure to the relationship.




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      Lazylola wrote Aug 27, 2010
    • Me personally I would not bother, I’d simply move on.




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      Tuliplady wrote Aug 27, 2010
    • I’m with Ruby on this.




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      Angell VillafaƱe wrote Aug 27, 2010
    • Cut her off...completely. Eventually she will get the picture. If she confronts you and asks what’s up with the distance then that would be a good time to tell her why you aren’t dealing with her anymore. No one needs shady friends like that. I had someone that I had to cut out of my life for those same reasons. Those kinds of people just bring  bad energy around themselves wherever they go. No one needs that. Good luck Deb!




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      Linda L wrote Aug 27, 2010
    • I’m twisting the question - how would you address someone that you don’t like?  I’ll still be nice to her and say under my breath - b...




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      Nerissa wrote Aug 27, 2010
    • Time is too short and too precious a gift. Because of her deciet, so unnecessary, she is not worthy of your thought and consideration. Fore warned is fore armed. Allow her to weave her web of deceit in someone elses life. It may be difficult to digest but “the truth will set you free“. She has shown her “true colors” let her wear them proudly. Sever all ties. If she has any scruples she will reflect on her behavior in the meantime, allow her to become someone you used to know.  X marks the spot.




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      Amy L. Harden wrote Aug 27, 2010
    • I agree with severing your ties with this person...people like this are toxic and they tend to poison others who are your friends. Take note of what this type of person is like...then stay away from her and anyone like her.




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      Kyah wrote Aug 29, 2010
    • How would I address someone I didn’t like? That’s easy, I wouldn’t waste my breath addressing them at all. I don’t even say hello, and look right through them like they‘re invisible when I walk past them. There are people I work with whom I never speak to because when I read vibes, I know they are shallow and duplicitous.




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      Faye43 wrote Sep 3, 2010
    • I have had to deal with back stabbers at work. I was nice to them but would not invite them to tea. happy




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