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Every now and again my partner (9yrs youger) slips in a comment about how often his not getting it.. in front of others. I find this hard to stomach as I feel it’s not something that should be shared and he just crossed the line. What do you think?




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      Lazylola wrote Sep 19, 2010
    • I would ask him to stop and if he didn’t then I’d probably be a smartass the next time he said anything and just say he ain’t getting it cause .....(fill in the blank) probably something to hurt his ego....of course I would prewarn him.




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      Victorious wrote Sep 19, 2010
    • I would ask him to stop too and just like Lola pre warn him that I will insult his ego the next time he does it.

      Maybe this is the time to consider if it is wise to continue with a relationship with him as he obviously has maturity issues.

      I have a friend who is constantly struggling with how her partner views things as with the same age difference she has alot more experience than he does.heart




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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Sep 19, 2010
    • I’m wondering if he’s finding it difficult to discuss it with you directly and finds it easier to get his point across by casually mentioning it in public. He needs to understand that the public embarassement strategy isn’t going to suddenly make you more affectionate toward him. I agree that this crosses the line. You could find a quiet time when you‘re both relaxed and in a good mood to bring it up and talk about it.




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      Tamra wrote Sep 19, 2010
    • All very good thoughts.

      I don’t think a prior warning about a public response is always necessary.  Adults ought to know what is proper behavior and proper conversation in public.  I would have no problem throwing back a smarta$$ response if my husband said something disrespectful like that in public, and have done so a time or two.  After all, he knew it was tacky when he said it, and had no reason to be surprised that I said something tacky right back at him.  Yeah, it might irritate him, but after saying something so rude, he’s not getting any, anyway, so we might as well both be miserable.  lol!




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      Princessleah wrote Sep 20, 2010
    • Next time he does this infront of everyone, I would simply smile cheekily and say out loud “Well.....maybe if you stopped using too much energy on telling everyone how much sex you‘re not getting, and used that energy on actually getting me in the mood, maybe you’ll get some loving from time to time!!!“, keep smiling and walk away.....




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      Anne E wrote Sep 20, 2010
    • Definitely out of line!




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      Cheekymonkey wrote Sep 20, 2010
    • estatic Id go with prinessleah and Tamera. I wish I could be better but noooo that out of line would get the same responce. I totally believe that asking him to stop is a waste of your time,effort,and demeaning. Let me explain. Im sure youve told him this before so his continuance is childish and petty. Could be age or could be a warning of his pweronality.
      It is a form of abuse mental and humiliation is abuse. Expecially when he knows its hurtful.




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      Cathie Beck wrote Sep 20, 2010
    • The X never did this to me when I was present, and it’s likely that he knew I’d laugh myself silly and say why in some detail! LOL  In my case, I would’ve been the one complaining.  

      Ok, and back on topic....  

      I’m thinking he wants to impress others that he’s all virile and “ready for it“, but has some insecurities about his sexuality and pleasuring you. Definitely talk to him about how this is not boosting your amorous mood, and if you haven’t done it yet... let him know sex isn’t an open topic or anyone else’s business.  

      Good luck, I hope you guys can work this out.  

      Cathie




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      Marya1961 wrote Sep 20, 2010
    • Definitely something that should stay behind closed doors, others do not need to be informed about how often you both have sex..I would say something to the effect of, “Gee, I should be the one complaining” and let everyone wonder!happy




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      Mzd3 wrote Sep 20, 2010
    • LOL Perfect comeback Marya !!




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      Nita P wrote Jan 26, 2012
    • i would walk out, go to my room.  at first chance i would have it out with him




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