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My husband let’s his 20 yr. old daughter spend the night at her boyfriends house, some time’s she’ll be over there 4 nights in a row!  I asked him “Well are you going to let Tom stay over here??” (not that I want him too)....and he said “absolutely not“.  Double standard to me.  But, I can’t believe he allows her to sleep over so frequently.  She’ll be 21 in December but there is no way my father would have ever allowed that.  What is your opinion?

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      Angelcart wrote Oct 5, 2010
    • Her BF still lives at home with his parents too.  I actually like when she stay’s over there.  Yet at the same time I don’t understand why he hasn’t been more strict on her finding more work.  She works a MAXIMUM of 12 hrs a week!  I feel she should be working on Friday nights, Saturdays.  I’m really tired of him giving her his gas card constantly, $$ for her shampoo, etc., etc., etc.....it’s a long list!




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      UK Girl wrote Oct 5, 2010
    • Honey I think she is swinging it - if she was home more you would notice her idle and suggest a job but as she is at her boyfriends she is off the radar ........

      Why is she only working 12 hours is she at college
      Sorry your having to go through this




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      Cathie Beck wrote Oct 5, 2010
    • Oh, so this isn’t really about an adult daughter who does sleep overs with her boyfriend? Just my 2 cents... and don’t try to add it to your bank deposit... LOL.  Your hubby is not “letting her” stay at her boyfriends, she’s 20 years and doing what she wants. I agree with you 100% that he should not pay for her gas or shampoo or new outfit or mascara. She’s
      not in college? If she was going to school I could see some assistance if she worked as many hours as possible with a heavy load of school work.  

      Short of a discussion with your hubby, I don’t see the situation will change. ;oP  

      Cathie




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      Lazylola wrote Oct 5, 2010
    • I agree with Cathie.




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      Angelcart wrote Oct 5, 2010
    • She’s going to college but she could work more hours.  And your right, hubby isn’t going to change.  

      @ Cathie, he said he told her when she moved back in she’d have rules.  I personally don’t see just because she’s 20 that it’s ok to use our house as a hotel.  Apparently his ideal of rules is completely different than mine.




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      Cathie Beck wrote Oct 6, 2010
    • It looks that way, Angelcart. If your hubby cut out paying for everything she wants, she’d have to work more hours, I’m thinking. ;oD  

      Cathie




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      Frannie1964 wrote Oct 6, 2010
    • Shes an adult now and if she can spend the night at her boyfriend’s/parent’s place that many days then she should be able to pay for her own gas and other necessities(sp) Your hubbys treating her like a baby still and yet lets her stay over night with her boyfriend. Seems outta whack..lol

      But then what do I know. I was out of the house at 18 and on my own.worried




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      Qma wrote Oct 6, 2010
    • I think the girl is supposedly an adult and can basically do whatever she deems fit. It’s her life. However, she needs your permission to bring an extra guest to your house. It’s your house and she should respect both your and your husband’s wishes.




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      Qma wrote Oct 6, 2010
    • And if “gas card,shampoo, etc., etc., etc.,” all together is not too much money, let this issue go for your own sake.    

      Just my 2 cents.




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      Angelcart wrote Oct 6, 2010
    • @ QMA.....it would be nice if she would respect my wishes but she doesn’t.  She never has since we married.  Now, if it was only gas, shampoo I wouldn’t be complaining.  But he still pay’s her auto insurance, her schooling 100%, just put 4 new tires on her car, tags, inspection, ok I’ll stop.  I could go on til 5:00!




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