I know I haven’t been here in a blue moon but it certainly looks like Fabulously40 has gotten along quite nicely without me.

Yana is to be commended for all she has accomplished with this site and the fabulous women who have connected here and beyond.  I am honored to say I’ve created some wonderful friendships as a result of being here.

As you may or may not know, I am working on finishing up my third book.  It’s called “Don’t Ask and I Won’t Have to Lie:  50 is Not the New 30 and Other Tall Tales”

I have put together a survey which I am asking for your participation. There are ten questions.  You don’t have to give your name but if you do take it, I will include your name in my book if you like as a credit).

Here is the link:  [Link Removed]  

You must be at least 40 years old to participate.  Thanks so much for doing this.

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I realize I’m not here as often as some of you are and have not been an active contributor of late.  But I get the feeling that my presence here is no longer welcome.  I always believe I have something relevant to say but I noticed that my blog posts and community posts rarely get read anymore.

I believe we all have something to contribute to this site but if I have worn out my welcome, I will step aside and fade into the distance.

Thank you for allowing me to have my say—-and please don’t patronize me with “We love you” because that, to me, would be an insincere reaction.

OK...you obviously see that I’m still wearing my Santa hat.  That’s because I still feel the Christmas spirit!  Last week, I received the most awesome Christmas gift when I got to become an eyewitness to history.  I attended the Inauguration of President Obama as a correspondant for my local radio station.

The experience was nothing short of spectacular!

President Obama has ignited a spirit of re-connection that I have never seen before.  

You know, it’s funny but I was a John McCain supporter in 2000 and actually struggled with my decision during the early days of the election—until SARAH PALIN was put on the ticket.  She offended me with her “I’m just a hockey mom and a red neck from Alaska.”  She made no effort to connect with me as a African-American mom.  But no big deal now.

I just ask that you indulge me for a few more days as I continue to enjoy my Christmas present and I promise to remove the hat and get on about the business of being a Fab40 Baby Boomer Diva.

To see my blog posts about the Inauguration, please go to:  [Link Removed]

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Some of the so-called experts and surveys tell that life in the bedroom just ain’t what it used to be when we reach a certain age. Growing older supposedly makes us tired and unnattractive to our mates.  

If you fall into that category, here’s a little tip on how to spice up your love life this holiday season.

Dress up like Santa or Mrs. Claus!  

Why? Because more than one in five women has a secret Santa Claus fantasy, according to flirty dating website BeNaughty.com.  

Research by BeNaughty.com reveals that women find the chubby, bearded gift-giver very sexy indeed. More than 1,000 women were asked whether they fancied Santa Claus in the poll.  

“We can’t decide whether it’s the beard, the red suit or his obvious kind and friendly nature that makes him appealing,” said Max Polyakov, head of the UK’s top dating site.

“It could of course be that he brings a lot of presents and smiles a lot.”  

Research also revealed that one in 16 (6%) men had, at one time or another, dressed up as Santa Claus in the bedroom. And one in 10 (9%) women had worn a sexy Mrs Claus outfit.

Have you ever had a santa fantasy or any other type of holiday fantasy?

As a baby boomer parent, I am disturbed to read more and more stories about teachers and students connecting on social networking sites for purposes other than school work. But what is equally as troubling is the fact that some teachers are using their web pages to say derogatory things about the kids they teach. Recently, a high-school special-education teacher was suspended for using a Facebook "mood box" to post "I’m feeling p——- because I hate my students!"  

In another NC case, the Superintendent has recommended firing a Thomasboro Elementary teacher whose page said she was "teaching in the most ghetto school in Charlotte" and described her students as "chitlins." Her lawyer said his client intended no offense to her students and was simply telling the truth about resegregated schools in CMS.  

Some teachers say what they do on their own time is their business and as long as it doesn't affect the way they teach, it shouldn't matter. Is this a generational thing?  

What do you say?

Should your children be allowed to interact with their teachers through social networking web sites such as Facebook and MySpace?

A new policy is being considered by the Winston-Salem/Forsyth County Board of Education in North Carolina on Tuesday, Dec. 2. This policy strongly recommends that school-system employees not communicate with students through such sites.

The policy also strongly recommends that employees not list students as “friends” on their personal pages unless the student is a relative and warns that any communication between employees and students should be appropriate.

Some teachers say they see social networking as helpful for creating connections with struggling students who might be afraid to speak up in class or in person.  

So what do you think? Is there harm in students connecting with their teachers online? Should there be guildelines?